We Only "Joked" About It in the Group Chat
The team's private Slack banter wasn't private. It was discoverable, and it became the centerpiece of a harassment complaint.
Nothing is off the record. Especially the channel everyone treats as off the record.
The message
"lol don't invite [name] to the offsite, you know how *those* people get 😂"
Posted in a "just us" team channel. Surfaced, months later, in a harassment investigation: timestamped, attributed, and impossible to explain away as a private joke.
Why it mattered
Two problems, one message. First, the content itself supports a hostile-environment claim. Second, it establishes that the conduct was normalized and public within the team, which pushes exposure past the individual and onto the company for tolerating it. "It was just banter" has never once worked as a defense.
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