We Only "Joked" About It in the Group Chat
The team's private Slack banter wasn't private. It was discoverable — and it became the centerpiece of a harassment complaint.
Nothing is off the record. Especially the channel everyone treats as off the record.
The message
"lol don't invite [name] to the offsite, you know how *those* people get 😂"
Posted in a "just us" team channel. Surfaced, months later, in a harassment investigation — timestamped, attributed, and impossible to explain away as a private joke.
Why it mattered
Two problems, one message. First, the content itself supports a hostile-environment claim. Second, it establishes that the conduct was normalized and public within the team — which pushes exposure past the individual and onto the company for tolerating it. "It was just banter" has never once worked as a defense.
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